Righteous, not Self-Righteous

OUR FIRST MENS’ CALL IS JULY 8 2019 AT 8:30PM EAST COAST TIME.

This blog post is the fourth post in a series leading up to our first Men’s Call that will take place at 8:30pm ET on July 8, 2019. This series explores adrienne maree brown’s blog post relinquishing the patriarchy. Check out post one, Let’s Relinquish Patriarchy, post two What is Patriarchy and post three A Path to Intimacy for context, and sign up for our men’s call here


We have a big holiday this week. The celebration of American Independence is fraught with contradiction. A world changing event away from monarchy. The victorious expression of a great human ideal. All of it mired in deep contradiction. And the burden of foundational sins that continue to limit our experience of freedom.

There is something about the word freedom that appeals to the warrior archetype that lives within us. Many men can be moved to deep emotion by scenes from movies like Bravehart, or a serious contemplation of the slave rebellion that led to Haiti’s independence.

There is something that appeals to us. Something that moves us. This is the same something that can be used to manipulate boys into signing up for wars of Empire. But it is also something that can be made conscious. It is an energy that can move us as we aim for a truer freedom.

  • What would it look like to live free of patriarchy?

  • What are the ways in which we can live for the liberation of women, trans and gender non conforming people?

  • What is the way of the conscious warrior?

Let’s stay awake though. Let’s stay awake and aware. It is easy for us to become zealous. We can become so afraid of getting it wrong that we become unjust in the name of justice. I have seen it too many times. The social justice warrior that behaves just like a fascist.

Our call is to become righteous. It is not to become self-righteous.

Patriarchy is a disease that lives within us. And it is key to stay humble.

Don’t forget to ready adrienne’s post again this week. So important to keep coming back to it.

It is good to be on this journey together. I look forward to being with you next week on Monday, July 8 at 8:30PM East.

I encourage you to comment below.