After The Burn

After The Burn

I'm just getting back from Burning Man. And it was everything.

It is a modern day pilgrimage. It is ritual. And it is the biggest party you've ever seen. It is an impossible thing. It is a miracle. It is a life giving intersection of the sacred and the profane.

It is mundane drudgery and dusty discomfort. It is an ocean of unexamined whiteness and privilege. It is very far from sustainable. And I'm also sure that it is all kinds of unsafe.

Mutual Accountability

Mutual Accountability

For 21 days a group of us endeavored to build and hold a morning routine. Win the morning, win the day! We supported each other using a set of tools. But the process was held together by a simple rule: if I fail to keep my commitment, everyone in my group has to pay.

We are social animals. We don’t want to let each other down. And we certainly don’t want to be the cause of someone else's punishment.

The tool worked like a charm.

Room for Redemption

Room for Redemption

How can we believe in evolution if we don’t believe that people can change?

What do we have to do to make room for redemption? For forgiveness? For growth?

This year, Calvin Feliciano, who is like a brother to me, was held at the Canadian border. He was not allowed into Canada. He could not participate in this year's Evolutionary Leadership Workshop.

He was not allowed to take this life-changing journey of transformation.  He was sent back to the United States for mistakes made sixteen years ago, when he himself was 16.

The Better Men Project


After too long a stretch on the road, I am finally back to interviewing for the Better Men Project. I am riveted by the pattern of pain and responsibility that keeps showing up in these talks with men.

I did manage to make time for a heart-centered overnight ceremony with a cohort of men. These were lawyers, accountants, and big time financiers. Men who live and work outside of the “woke” discourse. The men that I’m trying to reach. The work works, the heart opening is real, and it gives men access to parts of themselves that have been shut out by patriarchy and its conditioning.

I was also moved with hope after the first men’s meeting held for those who have participated in the Evolutionary Leadership Workshop. The depth of connection and relationship that we already hold allowed us to take a very deep dive right away. We rallied around a crisis of patriarchy, beautifully supported by the women and femme identified folks in our community. 

We refused to concede to a culture that seeks to throw men away in the name of “justice.” And we committed to the idea that intimacy among men is a key aspect of becoming better men and living our way into a world that is safe for women.

Find out more about The Better Men Project here or sign up for an interview for the project below

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The Flagship

The Flagship

Last month I was blessed to facilitate the fourth annual Evolutionary Leadership Workshop, our flagship program. A workshop to make dreams real. I also facilitated the first ever Evolutionary Leadership Graduate Program, an opportunity for former workshop participants to come back and level up.