We find anti-blackness in many migrant communities, Islamophobia and anti-migrant sentiments in Black communities, and our whole society is guilty of making Indigenous people invisible. It makes no sense for these communities to distrust each other even as we are all threatened by bans, walls and the criminalization of our very existence.
Read MoreWhen I ask a group to talk about what it is like to be with someone who is really present, they say words like: comfortable, safe, being held, alive, joy, energizing, grounded.
WOW.
Consider being so present that others feel joyful around you, alive, energized, grounded. Wouldn’t this be an amazing way of being?
We can be this generous.
Read MoreHere I’m re-posting what I wrote on facebook as I worked to contend with the pain of this powerful #metoo moment. It is important to be clear about this. I’m not writing from abstraction. I hold positions of leadership. I seek to call people to a higher standard. When I fail, when I make mistakes or miss my blind spots, the impact is greater, and messier. This is a commitment that comes out of real hurt and real learning.
Read MoreOur first newsletter was supposed to go out on the New Moon of September. That’s when Hurricane María struck and the land of my birth experienced the first climate catastrophe caused by human made global warming. The island went dark. The diaspora went into despair. The waters and the winds struck with unfathomable fury.
The disaster is still unfolding.
Read MoreThe #metoo campaign is one of the most powerful things I’ve ever seen on social media. It is absolutely devastating. And it is also liberating. Silence, shame, hiding - these are the tools of oppression. I am disturbed by the masculine silence. Are you a man struggling with how to show up? Let's talk about it.
Read MoreI can tell you that there are people who punctuate their lives with acts of devotion, who make sacred offerings with every meal and who sing prayers into every hearth. And I can tell you that they are beautifully perfect as much as they are also flawed. They have moods, preferences, blind spots and human stuff as much as any of us. But they show up. They say yes to the work. They try harder. They try again. They do it with devotion. They do it with love.
Read MoreWhat are the social and rights-based implications of the “quantified society?”
This was the mind blowing question behind one of the most interesting gatherings that I facilitated this summer. Artificial Intelligence is advancing at a relentless pace. And the most powerful corporations on earth now have unimaginable troves of data about our most intimate behavior. We don’t seem to have the bandwidth to deal with the implications. And yet answering this question is a democratic imperative.
Read MoreWe have always known that laughter is the best medicine. Grandmothers have always told us so. Today’s science is catching up with ancient wisdom, and the myriad physiological benefits of laughter continue to be revealed. In our high stress, often depressed society, laughter becomes the most precise medicine for our day.
Read MoreI most often define my experience of a committed relationshipas the hardest, most rewarding work I get to do. On Saturday, September 9, my wife, Executive Coach and Facilitator, Samantha Tan, and I piloted our first Couples Workshop.
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